tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post7209578279369468292..comments2011-03-13T10:09:13.341-05:00Comments on Brad on Adoption: Thankfulness is MissingBrad Andrewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02449947300802682625noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post-90875155807467791182011-03-13T10:09:13.341-05:002011-03-13T10:09:13.341-05:00Thanks for the encouragement. I have this blog pa...Thanks for the encouragement. I have this blog partially just to give me someplace to express this all. It is a bit public, but I am not worried about "hiding" this part of my life. It is what it is.<br /><br />I know we had a better impact on my children than is apparent, for they are certainly better off than they would have been if they were left in the "system."<br /><br />It is not what I wanted, but my wants are very irrelevant in life, especially since I am living for a purpose that goes beyond this life! :)<br /><br />Still, I hope these comments can help others go into the process with their eyes wide open. I certainly don't blow the platitudes that are quite common in this area. It is a very gritty reality.<br /><br />My life is harder than if we had not adopted this sibling group, but it is still likely richer, even if the pain masks the joy at this point.<br /><br />Brad<br /><br />BradBrad Andrewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02449947300802682625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post-77580235324525933842011-01-29T16:52:33.293-06:002011-01-29T16:52:33.293-06:00Brad,
I just happened on your blog. I was googlin...Brad,<br />I just happened on your blog. I was googling "adopting siblings". I read a majority of your posts.....and for the most part, I have found your perspectives incredibly depressing. I don't know you. I don't know where you've come from or where you have been. But the theme I have picked up is that you are incredibly hurt over failed expectations on adopting your four children. It is obvious they didn't meet your needs. It is obvious that you had to work harder at loving than you thought you would have to. I commend you for sticking in there. Many a parent would have "disrupted" in your situation. What you have done, you can not see. Do not use your children and where they are now (or what they say or don't say) as proof that all your time and efforts were for nothing. It is obvious that you are sad but you are a hero. Your time was well spent even though you didn't get what you expected out of the deal. It's not all about you. It's a bigger picture. Since you like to read and you are a strong Christian, here is a challenge for you; read "Radical" by David Platt. Thank you for sharing your heart. It's ok. You DID NOT fail. You took a risk worth risking. And I admire this. Chau.Theahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03713854146755411820noreply@blogger.com