tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post113737498373641489..comments2011-03-13T10:09:13.341-05:00Comments on Brad on Adoption: Does Adoption End Well?Brad Andrewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02449947300802682625noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post-77653061525678561212007-06-20T21:56:00.000-05:002007-06-20T21:56:00.000-05:00We adopted two older children from the county, bro...We adopted two older children from the county, brother and sister. The eldest was nine when we adopted and her brother was five. The eldest has been diagnozed with RAD. She has a problem with me, the mother being close to her adopted father (my husband). In other words she tries to split us a part. Divorce would be just fine with her.<BR/><BR/>The best way I know how to explain these problems is like this:<BR/><BR/>All children, especially teenagers can exhibit some of the same behavior that older adopted detached children exhibit but the difference is with the adopted older child, multiply the disruptive behavior times 10. <BR/><BR/>I am pleased to see a father expressed his experiences with adoption. So much is expressed from the adoptive mother's point of view.<BR/><BR/>Please continue to post. Let us know how things go even with your kids that have left home. I will be particularly interested to see if they change as time goes by.<BR/><BR/>Sincerely,<BR/><BR/>MelissaMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06605389791051699985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post-81191651021565523272007-01-06T23:42:00.000-06:002007-01-06T23:42:00.000-06:00PL,
Sorry for the delayed reply. I would have to...PL,<br /><br />Sorry for the delayed reply. I would have to say that having a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder, which means they don't attach to you, makes "normal" teenage issues much worse. Children who don't view you as a parent have an almost impossible time attaching to you.<br /><br />This can also mean they can tell lies about you that can cause you lots of trouble (such as charges of abuse). I have heard of it in enough families that I know it is not just our family. They also have great "manipulation skills," beyond those in "normal" teenagers.<br /><br />I may post an entry on this later.Brad Andrewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02449947300802682625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8918001.post-1155455385517816312006-08-13T02:49:00.000-05:002006-08-13T02:49:00.000-05:00Brad,It is no different with adopted or natural ch...Brad,<BR/><BR/>It is no different with adopted or natural children. One does the best one can by setting a good example and being firm. There is no failure or success involved for the parent, once a child is on their own, <B>the parent MUST let go and trust God.</B>A Proud Liberalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03184843313132771874noreply@blogger.com